Chinese people like to give gifts. They give gifts during festivals, ask people to do things, and thank others for gifts. However, gift-giving is a science, and it is not easy to achieve your own goals.

First of all, you must give gifts and find a good reason. For example, special days such as the other party’s sick birthday, my children’s further education, etc., are the best time to give gifts, because people on the street are famous and justifiable, and people on the street will not have too many scruples in addition to gratitude, otherwise the name of the gift is not correct and will cause some unnecessary trouble.

Secondly, it is necessary to choose the appropriate occasion and a reasonable time to give gifts. Every time you give a gift, you must grasp the occasion and timing. People generally do not accept gifts from others for no reason. If you don’t grasp the occasion and timing well, it will make others misunderstand. For example, take a good tea, go to the leader, and let the leader appreciate it.

The third gift without a trace, many times asking for help will make people feel embarrassed. It is either afraid that you will not open your mouth and ask for help, or you are afraid that the other party will refuse, but if you ask for help, you must always express it, otherwise no one will help. The best way is to mix a familiar gift first, and give it without a trace. For example, playing mahjong to lose money.

So what kind of gift should you give? The first gift is practical. It is to do what you like, to give cigarettes if you like to smoke, to give wine if you like to drink, to give tea leaves or tea sets if you like to taste tea.

The second gift is to give people what they need. For example, General Tso was comfortable in the Qing Dynasty. In Xinjiang, what he urgently needed was military pay. Hu Xueyan looked at the timing and gave him a military pay of 250,000 two silver per month. Hu Xueyan attached himself to General Tso’s big patron.

Third, to give gifts with cultural taste, some leaders don’t like to receive gifts, but he is more elegant. At this time, you can send a famous calligraphy and painting.

So how much should you give as a gift? Generally speaking, when asking someone to do something, you can put appropriate gifts according to the weight of the knowledge you are seeking, and you don’t have to blindly pursue particularly expensive gifts. The second is to give gifts that match your status.

Gift-giving should find the right person, that is, before you give gifts, you must figure out who is the point person to do things, who has the right to decide the matter and play a leading role, and then give the gift to the point person, and the things to be done may be solved easily. If you give it to irrelevant people, not only will you not receive the expected effect, but Hang Seng may also cause things to become more and more difficult.

Finally, ask someone to do something, and give gifts is just cramming. Building relationships with others cannot be done overnight. It takes time to accumulate and needs to constantly cultivate feelings. When you use others, you will temporarily run to you. Generally speaking, the effect is very poor.